MONSTER IN LAWS

Over Christmas we had a argument with the father in law. over dish cloths of all things. you see myself and my partner had our third child and as I was working the weekend after I asked him to come over and look after his daughter while I was at work. (she had had a C section 48 hour previous).

While he was Over at ours he had kindly done the washing up and I thanked him for it when I got home. the day after The family went to my parents and the father in law went home on the Sunday evening we had take away and as Sunday is normally bacon butties in our house the only thing to wash up was a couple of side plates so I didn't notice anything odd in the kitchen.

Monday came round and after shopping I decided to wash up and make the dinner. When I went to wash up all our dish clothes had vanished even the pack under the sink that we always kept for wiping other things except dishes and work tops.

So I asked Lou where all the dish cloths had gone and she said to my shock Dad told me he told you that he had thrown them away. so I said he told me nothing of the sort so I called him to asked where my dish cloths  where. To my amazement he said to me I told Lou that i had thrown them away because you had no bleach.

4 things annoyed me at this point

1, He told Lou he had told me and told me he had told Lou
2, the bleach we use for dish cloths is 29p the dish cloths he threw away cost a total of 2 quid and in the corner of our kitchen we have an amazing invention called a washing mashing.
3, I had just got back from shopping ad if he had told me that He had thrown away the dish cloths I could have picked up some more but now I had to go back to the supermarket and buy some more to was up.
4,(and this really pissed me of) what right did he have to come into my house and throw away something I had bought without clearing it with one of us first.


so I hung up the phone and went to the super market to purchase cloths so I could do the washing up.

Thought nothing of that telephone call. and expected him to come to our house the following day has planned
previously on Sunday.

If I was him I would have bought a pack of dish cloths on the way through ad we would have had a laugh and joke about it.

but that didn't happen in fact he didn't answer his phone he appeared offline on Facebook to us and we heard nothing from him. on Christmas day I sent him a text has I did with everyone else in my phone book saying Merry Christmas from Dean Lou Caitlin AJ Oscar (the dog) Swiper (the cat) but on his message I missed out Brooke totally by accident. sent the text at around 10 am I got a message back from every one else returning the greeting apart from him.

this annoyed Lou and did something that we don't normally do on Christmas day and that was went on Facebook and he was having a dirty convo with a woman on his wall for all to see so Lou got pissed and messaged great when you can talk filth for all to see but you can't text or call any of your daughters to wish them Merry Christmas.

5 mins later the house phone goes it was him he said the reason I have not texted you is because I am lonely and  you didn't put Brooke on the text message. The next thing he said sent me in a rage. He said so I thought I would leave you to Grieve (remember he is talking to Lou at this point his Daughter) Lou reply was WTF you on about  and he said Brooke is dead isn't she.

Lou bust into tears so I grabbed the phone and said what happened  and he told me exactly what he had just told Lou. because the kids was around I kept my cool, Just. and just hung up.

After another drunken phone call about 1 hour later telling us how lonely he was. and the pity story about all he has done is look at these four walls, He went back into hiding.

We didn't not hear nothing from him till the 8th of Jan. new year fresh start. so when he called i was kind of jolly when I answered the phone until he said his first 5 words

"HAVE YOU TWO GROWN UP YET?"

So I said huh

he proceeded to say he is being the bigger man and he got on the phone to make the call so I reminded him That I had not fallen out with him and we made first contact on Christmas day and no one from this end went into hiding and appeared off line to all my family. And I didn't ring up a family member saying my 4 week old is dead, so should it not be us asking if you have grown up yet?

he continued saying he was my elder and I should respect him but I said you earn respect you don't demand it and you defo don't earn respect by calling us pissed say my daughter has died.


he then hung up on me. and thought nothing about it.

Later that evening we was reading status shuffles on facebook and Lou cam across one  that said some thing like you can say what you want to me I can just hate you but hurt my kids i will hurt you

all of a sudden Her dad comments on the status something he has never done before in his life. just one word Bollocks!!!
Lou took this has a joke and said if you don't believe me test the water!!!
Bollocks Again

I then saw this status and put ???
then I got this it is about time you got the fuck off my family you dirty bastard if you don't do it I will make you/

now I am at boiling point so I said sorry your stuck with me cos unlike some I am talking to right now when I have kids I stick around and face up to my responsibilities.

he went on saying I live in filth and it is about time you started buying food for the kids rather that feed them take aways all the time other poison that flooding out of his mouth but again would not answer his phone.

(we have a take away about once a month, and we don't live in a show home but our house s clean)


Lou told him he has lost all contact she wants nothing to do with his poison and don't want my children round  round it either. the morning after Lou messaged him on facebook confirming what she had said the night before thinking he was Drunk the night before to give him the opportunity to explain himself. The response she got from her own father was I hope you die a slow painful death and rest in peace. then went silent again.

I was like a rabid animal Lou said don't worry he just can't handle the truth and he has just hit back with something I have heard several times before. this was a shock to me because. Because from my first child right up until Brooke I can not imagine speaking like that to my own child.

Lou said I want nothing more to do with, what was different this time to the other times he had wished his daughter dead? This time he didn't wish his daughter, he wished our childrens mother dead.


All went quiet again until the 17th Jan Lou and I had just got in from being out since 8 am that morning and because we don't normally go out that early the Dog had gone mad and when we come in it looked like we had been robbed. the dog had shredded one of his teddy bears there was stuffing everywhere the cussions was off the sofa he had got a toilet roll and shredded that. this is how quick the door went I had not even taken my jacket off let alone unpacked the shopping we had picked up while we out.

when we answered the door the voice on the intercom said hello it is social services.

Now not that i have a problem with authority figures but social services get things wrong the state of the living room at this moment I didn't want anyone knocking at my door let alone social services. she came in and has soon has she stepped foot through the door she assumed that this is how we normally live.

she told us the reason that she was here was that they have had an anonymous call saying we live in filth and and only feed our children fast food. (sound familiar)

I knew exactly who this caller was and what annoyed me more is social services are like a pest because once they step into your house which you have to let them in or it will cause more problems for you. you can't get rid of them until you have jumped through their hoops because they see a 20 min glimpse into your life and think they know everything that is going on.

so after being called a fibber in my own house she left I got right on the phone and all i said to him was you wanna play games boy then game on.

2 hours later there was another knock on the door this time it was the police asking me about a death threat I had made to the father in law. Luckily I was not alone when I made that call and Lou was there and before I even had chance to register what the officer had just said  she said his exact words was if you wanna play games boy game on. The officer said well he has told me he never called social services.

this time I was quick to respond I just said I never mentioned anything about social services to him?

The officer left requesting we don't get in touch with him again and me deleting his number in front of the officer.

 All went quiet for a week apart from a couple of emails from him one saying I will not stop until you are no longer involved with my daughter and another  saying told you not to mess  with the master (something he likes to call himself) until 25th of Jan 7:10 pm the buzzer went and I thought who is this Lou answered the buzzer to it is the police can we have a word.

We let the police in and they said they have had an allegation that I had been hacking into my father in laws email account and sending myself emails.I asked when I was meant to have done this? the officer said the 20th of January so I went to the land line and called up my service provider put it on loud speaker and hacked the customer service agent when did my service get restricted due to late payment of bill.

The Customer Service Agent said you services got restricted on the 19th of January and was reinstated on the 23rd. I also showed him the messages he had left  on facebook and was 100% convinced that I had nothing to do with these emails.

I also told the officer after he informs me that he is going back to speak to him that send a little message from me If you guys come to my door again due to a BS allegation he will be hearing from my solicitor.

we are now on the 29th of January and so far everything as gone quiet. don't get me wrong half of me wants to go and teach the guy a lesson but the other half of me knows that Karma is a BITCH.